Every semester, the Omega Chapter puts a new class of Prospective Members through our twelve week process to become a brother of Kappa Kappa Psi. The process is meant to teach Prospective Members about our organization’s ideals, history, and what it truly means to be a brother. Reflection on one’s process is one of the most important and meaningful learning experiences a Prospective Member can have. This past semester, all of the Prospective Members were asked to write a paragraph reflecting on one of three topics:
– What did you learn through your process?
– What was your favorite part of the process?
– What is the meaning of brotherhood to you?
These questions were designed to help each Prospective Member reflect on and draw meaning from the lessons and experiences that occur during the process. The following paragraphs are a window into the once-in-a-lifetime experience that is Omega’s process – through the eyes of a Prospective Member.
-Chris “COMRAD” Vance
What did you learn during your process?
It is extremely difficult to put into one paragraph what it is that I learned, going through this process. When I came to the University of Arizona, I had zero interest in Greek life, and I didn’t even really know what a Fraternity was. I noticed at band camp that there were some band kids wearing bandanas and they were all matching, and that was when I first found out about Kappa Kappa Psi. When I accepted my bid, it was still with a little hesitance, but as soon as I started getting to know the active brothers, all my previous notions had changed. I learned a great deal about what it means to be there for each other, because often times I was unable to survive without some of the brothers. I also learned a great deal about focus during my occasional sleepless nights. I learned that without focus, nothing will be done right, or on time, or having meaning to it. But above all I learned that all the struggles of life and all the hardships are not meant to be carried alone, and that we need each other. That is why a brotherhood is so important, and that is why I want to be a part of it. Even though I couldn’t have said that two months ago, I now believe it with all of my being and I have my process to thank for that.
One of the best things I’ve learned throughout my prospective member process is the willingness of so many people, strangers at the beginning, trusting me and likewise letting me trust them. It’s inspiring imagining the great sense of camaraderie I’ve witnessed throughout these past weeks. I’ve come to realize that I don’t need to be a complete stranger to even myself. I no longer needed to hide my true self to feel a simple sense of belonging. I was welcomed to go through the prospective member process, and I’ve had someone guiding me every step of the way. I learned to be confident in every manner possible. I’ve been taught how to love someone as a true brother and do anything at any time for anyone. This brotherhood taught me invaluable lessons in life that I will never take for granted.
I’ll admit that process had its rough spots. There were times when I wasn’t sure what to do next or if I was even doing things right; but I can honestly say that this has been the greatest experience I have ever had. I’ve learned more about myself than I thought possible. I gained so much trust in people who, only ten weeks ago were strangers, but now are my brothers and best friends. This process taught me how to work with others and get stuff done, even at two in the morning when we’re all tired and hungry. It taught me that it’s okay to put myself out there and make my opinions known. I have become more social and outgoing than I ever thought I could be. Yes, it was hard at times, but I am so grateful for how the Prospective Member process has shaped my personality.
What was your favorite part of the process?
Rushing for KKPsi-Omega was perhaps one of the wisest decisions I have made through my college career. I truly felt my bond with the brothers grow as the weeks progressed and this is what has been my favorite aspect of the process. Whether we were at an official event or on the couch of an active, these brothers really care about getting to know each one of the prospective members. Now, there are many other events I could have chosen as my favorite during this process, like degrees, or receiving gifts, but without a doubt, getting to know the actives and growing as a brother is what I value most. That is why it has become my favorite part about rushing to become a brother of KKPsi- Omega.
My favorite part of process was bonding with my fellow prospective members and dad, Joey. My class and I did some crazy things when we hung out together. We had so many late nights doing homework, studying, and playing ping pong. The coolest thing to me about KKPsi is the intense relationships that are formed. It’s unexplainable to any outsider, no matter how hard I try. We’re not “friends.” That word just doesn’t cut it. I feel the exact same way about my dad, Joey. He’s been there for me my entire process, and he is truly my guiding spirit and the best dad I could ever have hoped for. Whether it’s carving a Cinderella pumpkin for me and calling me a “reject seed” or giving me advice about process, I know Joey would do anything for me! The bonds I’m forming through this organization are the incomprehensible, and it just blows my mind how close I am with my class and my dad.
I’ve always been a bit reserved when I’m out and about in the world. Being a part of process has helped me to sort of break out of that habit and be myself more often with most people that I interact with. I’m more open, I laugh more often and I’m most likely the happiest I have been in a long while. These past few months have been some of the best of my life. I’ve gotten to know some amazing people that I probably would have never talked to had I not been given the chance to rush . I am forever grateful for the opportunity to be a part of this great organization. The Omega Chapter is a group of hardworking people that enjoy what they do and serve in any way that they can. The love and respect that the Active Members have for each other is evident. No matter what happens, they always look out and take care of each other. I hope, that given the chance, I can always maintain the good name of .
What is the meaning of brotherhood to you?
When I first started my process of becoming a Brother of Kappa Kappa Psi, oddly enough, I never thought too much about the brotherhood aspect of the fraternity. I have never had a brother, biological or otherwise, and have never truly experienced brotherhood. I have never participated in a bond of brotherhood until recently. This past semester has taught me more about myself and my interactions with others than any experience I have ever had. I am proud to say that I have made friends that I know will love me and be there for me till the day die. But more than that, I can finally say that I have brothers. I have found brotherhood with people that I would have never even considered talking to before my process. I wish that I could say what brotherhood was to me exactly but it is truly something that cannot be defined until you experience it.
When starting my process, I had never had a sibling before, so I had no idea what to expect when I accepted my bid for Kappa Kappa Psi. I had come up with a vague idea of what brotherhood meant to me and what I hoped to experience during my process. The experience was everything I had hoped for and more. The bonds I have formed with the actives and my class were nothing like I have ever experienced before. My brother class helped me get through tough times during my process when I thought there was no way I could finish strong. We were always there for each other and I know we always will be. Throughout my process, brotherhood has changed for me because my idea of brotherhood was nothing compared to the real deal. The real connection that you feel with brotherhood is knowing that you have a family who will be willing to do anything for you and you will be willing to give the same. It is a symbiotic relationship with a huge group of people, but it feels like a close-knit family who you share your deepest secrets with and know that they are safe forever. Brotherhood, to me, means that the people I am meeting today in Kappa Kappa Psi are the people who I will know the rest of my life. They are the people who you want to stay connected throughout your life and share your experiences with each other. I have never had a sibling before August of this year, but I now can say that I have gained not only many siblings, but a family.
Throughout my process, I have been asked about my own definition of brotherhood. Time and time again I have thought about my answer to this question and I find myself on a never-ending train of thought. Having the opportunity to be a prospective member has been one of the greatest experiences of my life and there is no possible way to put it into words. The Brothers of Omega have truly changed my life and helped me discover a completely new side of myself. They have shown me a whole other level of friendship, trust, and loyalty. Brotherhood is the kind of certainty and security that I have been searching for. It is an unbreakable bond and forever lasting connection that I never knew was possible. So why is Brotherhood so difficult to define? Because when it is done the right way, it is something so extraordinary, so incredibly life changing that your heart holds onto those words. It is something so personally sacred to you, that it is impossible to simply limit it to those definitions and regulations. I cannot thank Omega enough for everything that they have done for me and I will hold them in my heart forever.